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23 April 2020

Reminiscing Br Dennis

My first and the most profound memories of Br Dennis are related to his time at Punganur. It was during a summer formation programme held at Punganur (I think in 2003 or so) that I met and interacted with Br Dennis for the first time. Initially when he addressed us, practical trainees, during Goodnight talks in the summer formation programme in Punganur, I hardly understood anything at all. I thought I was the only one not to get him, only years later to learn from my companions that most of them too were no better than me in understanding his talks. However, interacting with him in person, individually, was a different matter. I understood and appreciated better the little he said. Not that his language was articulate, but his expressions were! Very much like his name-sake cartoon strip, Dennis-the-menace! Short, laden and sharp.

Since that first interaction, the name 'Br Dennis' was no more just a name. There was a face to it. A known person behind it. Though I never lived with him in the same community, we did meet occasionally and for brief encounters. With his short and whacky haircut, stout stature and that wobbling gait he always stood out among the rest. My appreciation for Br Dennis grew when I was in the Provincial house, as the secretary and I heard his ayurvedic doctor, whom he used to meet once in a way for treatment of his legs, say that the condition of his legs was due to constant hard labour – with utter disregard for his own body! His long years of hard relentless work in the fields was catching up with him. And this time, his leg wouldn't let him outrun the strain and pain.

My most profound memory of him brings me back again to Punganur. This time in 2015 – by this time he was away from Punganur for quite some time. During the few months that I spent in the community there, I occasionally went out into the fields to lend a helping hand with the farm work or repair of the motors. On several such occasions, I ran into some of the neighbouring farmers. Striking a conversation with them, one name that would come up constantly and with great admiration, was that of Br Dennis. The local farmers there still remember him as a true farmer. Someone whom they connected with, more as 'of their own kind' rather than an aristocratic clergy or academic. Some of them even disliked him because he proved more efficient at farming than they did!

These few and scattered interactions with those who knew and worked with him, and with Br Dennis himself brought out for me certain characteristics of a true Salesian Brother – totally dedicated to his duty and responsibilities, greatly passionate about manual labour, and for better or for worse, with the Salesian community. He never felt bad about not being in the elite white-collared rung of society (civil or Salesian). He was perfectly at home with the mud and crops and the rugged TVS which carried him and the farm produce to the market! No huge construction or financial project or erudite book may bear his name, but his rugged strong hands and his wonky feet bear testament to his dedication and passion – constant, prolonged and total. His personal needs were very very limited – and those who knew him, know exactly what they were! Thus besides the community life and his responsibilities there was hardly anything at all that distracted – or attracted – him!

For me, he leaves behind a legacy of hard work, immersed community life and detached sense of living one's religious life. And of course, his sharp witty sense of humour! For this and much more, I feel honoured to have known him in my lifetime.

18 April 2018

Remembering Sr Modesta

I can't but think of Sr Modesta today.  Not that I'm mourning her death... I'm actually happy that I've had the chance to meet and know her. 

She was not a very gifted person, from what I know.  She had no special skills or talents, leave alone a world-class education or academic qualification.  I'm sure, she never held any 'privileged posts' during her lifetime.  Am quite sure she never even made it to being appointed 'principal' to any rural school.  I know for sure that she taught hindi in schools, but that's it.  Nothing more.  Yet, she endeared herself to so many people... to me.  What she lacked for in terms of academic excellence or intellectual calibre, she made up (more than merely balancing) through her personal relational skills.  She was a 'other-centred' person.  Her heart and mind sought out what others felt and needed, much more than what she needed for herself.  She was contended with herself, no matter how little she possessed or the lack of titles she was bestowed with.  What she was blessed with, she made the most.  She was happy and that happiness she gladly and generously shared with others. 

Life is better because you are happy; but life is best when others are happy because of you.
The following quote, perfectly sums up her life:

17 April 2018

The smiling Sr Modesta

Only this morning did I come to know about the delicate health of Sr Modesta.  Having finished supper, I just prayed specially for her in the Chapel and came to my room and received a message that she is no more.  Mummy had visited her yesterday at the Convent, the Capitanio House, in Bandlaguda Jagir, Hyderabad - adjacent to our Provincial house.

I first met her in 2007 when I was in the Provincial house as the secretary.  Back then she was already elderly and in the retirement home.  She hailed from Bihar or Jharkhand and she loved to speak in Hindi.  Being a rare breed of Salesians in the province who speak Hindi, we soon became friends.  After three years when I moved out of Hyderabad, everytime I went to Hyderabad for a meeting or retreat, I made it a point to meet her. The last time I saw her was before I left for the UK. She was already bed ridden and losing her memory.  But she recognised me instantly and we spoke for some time.

She truly is one of the few Nuns, I've known and admired much over the years.  I'm sure she was a native of some rural area and no matter how many years she worked in posh schools as the Hindi teacher, that village in her never left her!  Perhaps that was her greatest gift.  She was at home with everyone and made everyone feel at home with her - a typical rural characteristic.

It was during my stay in the Provincial house that she celebrated her Jubilee of profession.  There was a grand celebration in the convent.  A day or two later she came across to our Provincial house to meet Fr Noel, whom too liked her much.  For some reason the whole community was in his office and when Maria, the receptionist called up to say that Sr Modesta was on her way to meet Fr Noel, we promptly broke up our meeting and surprised her with song, and a card and a few words of appreciation.  She was quite surprised.  And then she lovingly hugged us all.  That's my most vivid memory of her - hugging each one with such affection.  That was Sr Modesta - enjoying the simple pleasures of life, being with everyone, making everyone happy and reaching out to those sad or suffering.  I remember well her daily visits to Fr M.D. Jacob in BIRDY. I think she was more faithful and prompt in her daily visits to him than most of us Salesians living on campus!

She certainly will be one whom I'll miss the next time I reach Hyderabad and our Provincial house.  God bless her simplicity and generous concern for others.  She certainly had plenty of patience, and her joyful smile was her best gift to all! 
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