From my little experience of dealing with people of UK, I suspect there is an element of fear and anxiety underlying any attempt to touch upon deep personal matters. Not that elsewhere people go about shouting their inner feelings and emotions in the street. But in comparison, there seems to be a sort of block, a sort of veil which everyone is comfortable with.
The few who do dare speak of their inner turmoils and share their feelings are often considered and treated as traditionalists or religious - someone to be kept away from! Most consider it fashionable and modern to be 'trendy', to be superfluous. Thus the avoidance of shared silence, deep intimate relationships, that extra effort to retain relationships, conversations involving feelings (rather than merely intellectual stuff or swearing), sharing of personal space and emotions... A note on silence: it is not that people appreciate silence. They do - that too fiercely. It is more as a tool to close up oneself, shutting out others, rather than shared silence.
I'm not judging, neither the people nor the situation, but merely trying to understand. Certainly, it is not the case that every person or situation is in this state - but a sort of general ambiance. Surely there must be several reasons for such an ambiance to be created. Wonder what could be the predominant ones that led to this state of affairs. Or I may be reading the signs differently. Possible.
The few who do dare speak of their inner turmoils and share their feelings are often considered and treated as traditionalists or religious - someone to be kept away from! Most consider it fashionable and modern to be 'trendy', to be superfluous. Thus the avoidance of shared silence, deep intimate relationships, that extra effort to retain relationships, conversations involving feelings (rather than merely intellectual stuff or swearing), sharing of personal space and emotions... A note on silence: it is not that people appreciate silence. They do - that too fiercely. It is more as a tool to close up oneself, shutting out others, rather than shared silence.
I'm not judging, neither the people nor the situation, but merely trying to understand. Certainly, it is not the case that every person or situation is in this state - but a sort of general ambiance. Surely there must be several reasons for such an ambiance to be created. Wonder what could be the predominant ones that led to this state of affairs. Or I may be reading the signs differently. Possible.
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