Most of us rely so much on the opinion or suggestions of others, that over a certain period of time we 'forget' to build our own values and convictions. Even when we attempt to do so, we fall back on someone else's approval or support. There are very few who really make reasoned choices and stick to them. But if need be and if they find that their choice isn't leading them up the right path, they are open and flexible enough to see better. Yet the ability to make choices and take decisions based on them is a tricky and challenging enterprise. No wonder JK Rowling has this to say about choices: It is our choices ... that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.