Rabbi, my friend, send me this quote sometime ago.
You are loved when you were born. You will be loved when you die. In between you have to manage!I always tell my Brothers, that love, more than an emotion, is a decision. It is a basically a commitment. It is a choice I have to deliberately make very consciously and carefully. It is not something that just merely happens! That 'happening by looks or chance' is only some wishful thinking or at the most the introduction to the introduction. Not love itself.