Self-discovery vs Self-awareness

Today I realised there a difference between self-discovery and self-awareness.  Not that I really thought much about self-discovery in comparison to the latter, but I presumed that one is more or less the same.  

As a matter of fact, both self-discovery and self-awareness are related; although not the same. Self-discovery is more as of now, today, here and now; while self-awareness is forward looking, in as much as it is future oriented, not stuck with today. 

Self-discovery has much to do with facts and affects (feelings, emotions, moods); whereas, self-awareness helps one influence choices, relationship and a whole lot of stuff, when one moves beyond the facts and affects.  The latter leads to changes and is transformative; while the former is intellectual.  

Self-discovery answers the question: Why am I who I am? 

Self-awareness responds to: What am I now/later meant to be? 

Being vs Doing

Doing usually flows from our Being.  Character often dictates or heavily influences our actions.  Therefore a greater focus on being is never misplaced.  

Nonetheless, our actions too have a bearing on our character, our being.  Besides ratifying or expressing our character, they do have an effect on our character.  

In short, the relationship between being and doing is not necessarily a one-way traffic; it is perhaps more of a Indian market-scene where everyone is in the right direction!!!

Parent's impact on children

Last Friday I had the good fortune of being present with the family of Thomas Aquinas, even though the occasion was not a joyful one; it was the funeral of his Dad. 

Nonetheless what was evident and a joy for me to witness was the sincere appreciation of the man that Mr Rayappan (Aquinas' father) was. He was the first trained catechist of the Salem diocese. And right till the end he continued being so.  

Much more than just doing the work of a catechist, he truly appears to have influenced the lives of people and brought them closer to Christ.  The most solid evidence to this fact of his life is the life of his sons!  Of the three I know Aquinas well.  And I told him as I left the cemetery after the burial, "No surprise, your roots run deep and strong!" 

The one thing that kept ringing in my head all along the Mass, especially listening to what several people were sharing and talking, either from the pulpit or all around me, was the impact of parents on the lives of their children!  True indeed, from the fruits one knows the quality of the tree! 

Origins of the Salesian Congregation

When Don Bosco initiated the Salesian Congregation (SC), which eventually took on the name of the Salesians of Don Bosco (SDB), his primary and perhaps the only goal was to ensure that the work for the poor boys is continued. But it certainly was more than a merely social enterprise. The well-being of the boys was for a higher purpose. 

The main aims of the newly founded society were the following: 

1. the glory of God
2. the salvation of souls, and 
3. the sanctification of its members

Of the three goals listed, none of them restrict limits itself to taking care of the boys. 

Grace before repentance

In our regular understanding and expression we most often think that repentance comes first and God's forgiveness follows.  It is as if God is responding to us.  

But I personally believe it is God who makes the first move. It is his Grace that moves us.  

In the Gospel of today we hear the incident of the prodigal son.  The son is repentant, after having lost all his possessions, and then thinks of his father.  His decision to get back to his father is not primarily because of his guilt; what precedes and supersedes that guilt is the trust that his father will take him back. Perhaps not as his son, in his earlier status, but at least as one of his hired servants... nonetheless, the son knew for certain that his father would accept him back!  

That benevolence of the father is the bedrock of our hope, our trust, our repentance. It is that same benevolence of the Father that draws us to approach the sacrament of reconciliation. Our repentance is in response to that benevolent grace; not the other way around. 

Making others feel at home

 A couple of days ago the readings of the Mass spoke of the only widow who was helped in Israel; then the only leper who was healed on the Jewish soil, and that too him being a Syrian, a non-Jew. The Gospel of the same day speaks of Mary as the chosen one to be the mother of the Messiah. 

What was special about the widow of Zarephath who was helped by Elijah?  What earned her a miraculous supply of food till the next harvest?  Her generosity towards a stranger. In spite of being hungry and well aware that sharing the only morsel of food she had, would result in the early starvation of her son and herself, she chose to offer the last morsel of food to a total stranger. She sacrificed.  She shared.  That too for a stranger. 

What was different about Naaman, the leper, that resulted in him being the only person to be healed by the Jewish prophet? He was open to the advice of everyone. He listened.  He listened to the advice of a slave girl who recommended that she visit the Jewish prophet to get rid of his leprosy.  He listened to his servants when in a rage he wanted to return from the doorstep of the prophet's house.  In spite of him being the army commander, he was open to kind words of others.  

Most importantly, even his servants felt comfortable to share with him their views.  They did not feel frightened or scared of him.  They respected him and hence wished him good.  This would have been  possible only because he was genuinely good to them!  

Song of faith

 An interesting story that I came across today: 

A group of two brothers were roaming in the forest, when they found a couple of tiny birds of the family of linnets. When the boys got the birds home, they put the linnets in a cage, opposite the canary bird, which was tied in another cage. (Canary birds are known to be “Singing Birds”) 

They explained to their mother that they hoped the linnets - being so young - would learn to imitate the singing canary. Instead of cheeping as normally birds do, they expected them to sing (like the canary) 

The next day the boys entered the room, and exclaimed: "Mother, come here, look what has happened! Our canary is cheeping like a linnet!" The mother came in and found it so! Instead of the linnets learning to sing, the canary bird forgot its ability to sing! 

Thus, the canary had to be separated from the wild birds of the wood and kept under cover for a time before regaining the singing ability. 

Such is the case with Christians who allow themselves to 'influenced and altered' by the ways of the world! We may end up losing the 'song of our Faith!'

Generosity

This story is told that one day a beggar by the roadside asked for alms from Alexander the Great, as he passed by. The man was poor and wretched and had no claim upon the ruler no right even to lift a solicitous hand. Yet the Emperor threw him several gold coins. 

A courtier was astonished at his generosity and commented: “Sir, copper coins would adequately meet a beggar’s need. Why give him gold?” 

Alexander responded in royal fashion: “Copper coins would suit the beggar’s need but gold coins suit Alexander’s giving.” 

Generosity is not just about fulfilling needs it is a reflection of our character and our inner goodness!

Christian witnessing

It is not what people eat, but what they digest that makes them strong; 

It is not what we earn, but what we save that makes us rich; 

It is not what we read, but what we remember that makes us learned;

And finally, it is not just what we preach, but what we practice that makes us Christians!

Young people

Two news titles caught my attention today... both of the UK (BBC) 

End of hedonism? Why Britain is turning its back on clubbing

Wonderful teenagers helped my son on Halloween

Two specific reasons: 

Both focus on emphasising that young people are not as bad as most often people tend to think they are. There is always a great amount of goodness and kindness that young people are capable of living and sharing. 

The other fact is that young people are an energetic lot. They are not usually satisfied doing the minimum.  With the right ambience and support, young people tend to achieve far more than what they themselves set out to achieve.