When confronted by someone, abruptly out of the blues, with some serious lacuna or fault of ours, the most common and immediate reaction (besides shock) is denial. One is too lost to see oneself 'naked', exposed. Naturally the mind goes into overdrive to cover oneself up - with whatever one can think of! In this process, one blurts out things which often end up doing more damage than good.
While this immediate response or reaction is understandable, continuing to be in that same state of denial and attempting to cover things up, is a sign of a weakened conscience. Such a person will always find it hard to make any changes in one's own life, because he or she has not really accepted the truth about oneself. Without primarily accepting one's own given situation, and acknowledging (at least to oneself) that it is not the best of oneself, how does one move to a better state of life or living?
While guilt is a terrible burden, it can also move us to be courageous. Courageous enough to accept the fault and seek ways to make up for it, all the while keen on making oneself a better person. I also understand that it is easy for me to write this, as one not affected. Nonetheless, I tell myself, if I do not have the honesty to admit my own mistakes, small ones to begin with, and in all sincerity, I will never have the courage needed to admit mistakes that I constantly bury without a funeral!
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